No person is perfect, and therefore, people will always be judged in both a positive and negative way. Everything a person does will be judged, and as a result, those who disagree with a person’s actions will most likely be deemed a hater. Even the most masterful ideas face opposition from haters. For example, world peace is often criticized as being impossible to achieve, and haters often express their feelings about it being a waste of time.
We all want to be well liked by everyone, knowing full well this is unattainable. Knowing we cannot please everyone, should we rather try to please no one? I often speak of my passions for the stock market and high-risk investment strategies with many people who return blank stares or raised eyebrows. I also have a life that does not revolve around work, which often scares people and gets me weird looks. Again, it’s impossible to please everyone.
One of the biggest issues out there is the overall cynical nature of society. When talking about how to achieve success and how to lead my life, people often respond in awe at the fact I am trying to do all these things. Why? Because they all believe all that I want is impossible to achieve or attain. Those of you like me, focused on residual income, have likely come across some haters as well. This article seeks to address how to deal with haters.
More often than not it is easy to talk the talk, but not actually walk the walk. People will advise ignoring haters, but when it comes down to it, the extreme negativity takes too big a toll to simply ignore. When times get tough, having that negative person telling you how dumb your ideas are or that you can’t do something can weigh quite heavily on you.
When such haters pop up, I usually question whether or not I will fail, or if I made the right decision. Am I wasting my time? Once I realize it is just the haters getting in my head, I have a clear answer to all my questions: no. I would like to offer some inspiration and give some advice about how to handle haters.
There are five things one must realize about haters before trying to deal with them. The first is that you cannot change them. It is important to understand that you will more than likely not be able to change a hater. If you are fortunate enough to change a hater, it will probably take years. The best example deals with politics. Imagine a conservative twenty something. Over time, this person realizes that not all liberal ideas are bad, and then has a few life experiences that make this person more liberal. While this person has indeed become more liberal, they are not fully to the left. The process of even becoming more liberal has taken time, and to be completely liberal would take even more time. Knowing this process and the fact that changing a person is truly rare will save you a lot of stress in the future.
The second suggestion is to expect the unexpected. In the age of technology where everything is faster, haters can attack at any time. The best way to combat these sneak attacks is to be prepared. It typically goes like this: you have a great idea, someone disagrees with it, that person tells you about how much they disagree with or hate your idea. Be ready for this. The haters want you to scream and yell, and post your reaction online—it gets their message out there more so than yours. The best thing to do is to not react to the haters.
Third, trying to please everyone is a certain sign of mediocrity. Like most people, I want people to like me, which is why I do things that encourage that. That being said, when everyone likes you and your message, it is likely there is something wrong. Some of the greatest minds have endured haters simply because their ideas were different. While the ideas were remarkable and made sense, not everyone liked them. We all know the story of Galileo and the sun. The main point is to realize that there will always be haters, but that does not mean your work, ideas, or ideology is wrong. Having opposition means you are perhaps doing something right.
Another thing to consider is being cool and collected at all times when dealing with haters. As previously stated, avoid confrontation with the haters and keep reactions private…most of the time. Sometimes dealing with a hater requires confrontation. When this is the case, the best advice is to remain calm. When haters present logical arguments contra to yours, do not respond with anger and frustration. This will not get anyone anywhere. Respond with your arguments, point out their flaws, and open yourself to the possibility of their argument. Be able to admit if your view is incorrect, or if it maybe needs some work.
The last thing to remember can be summed up by a quote: “living well is the best revenge.” I am a true believer in this as it has reduced a lot of stress in my life for years. Live a good life in spite of all the haters constantly trying to break you down. People always tell me how silly I am for expecting to make money from penny stocks. I respond by setting goals. I am hoping to make 40 percent in a quarter and then post my results for fact checkers. This allows me to promote my strategy and allow everyone to cash in. Living well is the best way to serve up that revenge to all the haters.
What experiences have you had with haters?